There are many reasons why some men leave pregnant women. If the woman is his wife then it will probably be completely unexpected; after all he is committed to the marriage in the first place.
Other than the unexpectedness of a married man leaving his pregnant wife, it is usually pretty easy to spot the type of 'man' who would leave his pregnant girlfriend. Women need to use common sense before they get intimately involved with any man.
First of all if you are entering into an intimate relationship with a man before knowing him, you have to be aware that there are many potential dangers besides unexpected pregnancy. If you have been in the relationship for awhile, there have probably been many signs that this guy is a loser.
Women by nature are too easy to forgive bad behavior in the men they date. They will say things like "he's got a good heart', "that's just the way he was raised", "it's a guy thing", etc. to justify their boyfriends behavior. If you are this type of woman you should seek counseling so you can understand the consequences for this type of relationship.
The truth is that some men just do not like women and they keep on treating women badly. For some guys it can be a real ego boost to treat his girlfriend like a commodity. If you are in a relationship with this type of guy you can be sure he will leave you if you accidentally got pregnant.
Any man who is verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive will likely leave you whenever the relationship is not convenient for him. If your man shows any of these traits you should make sure that you do not accidentally get pregnant. Even if he does not leave you, he will become abusive and once you are with a child that abuse is almost guaranteed to increase.
So if you are with a man who does not treat you with love, affection, and respect, do not be surprised if you find yourself on your own if you become pregnant.
Open Up To Heal Relationship
Many times people will find themselves in a relationship that used to be good, loving, and strong. But somehow, somewhere, things changed. Now they want to get that loving relationship back. The first thing is making sure there is an openness to healing relationships.
Most relationships that have broken down have done so over a period of time and usually because they feel they are being hurt by someone they love. These feeling have accumulated over a period of time and are taken on a life of their own. Over period of time we tend to shut ourselves off from our partner because we do not want to be hurt anymore. Once that happens you will need to make sure you can open up again and attempt to heal the relationship. Before you decide to fix your broken relationship you have to make sure that you are willing to open yourself up to the possibility of confrontation and you may feel hurt.
Is your partner willing to open up and work on the relationship? Many times one partner is more interested in saving the relationship than another. If that is the case and your partner has made it clear not to continue the relationship any longer, then you might as well call it quits. You can not do it all yourself and you can not force your partner to try.
If on the other hand, you both agree that you will try to work on the relationship the first thing you both need to do is look at yourselves and your partner needs. Try to honestly figure out what part you have played in the breakdown of the relationship and whether or not you will be committed to making the changes necessary to fix it. Again, both of you have to admit contributed to the break down of the relationship and both are willing to try to change.
The next thing you will both need to do is talk to each other. This does not mean yelling, intimidating, or getting mad. It means an open, adult discussion about how you feel. You have to be able to honestly speak your mind and explain what you think has happened, how it can be fixed,and what you are willing to do to help fix it.
This step is vitally important. This is the part where someone could get hurt feelings and that could lead to a big blowout. In order for this to work, it is crucial that you both give the other person time to talk, and not get mad or defensive about what other person have to say.
If you are sure and your partner really have an openness to healing relationships, and you are willing to work on the steps I have listed here, then the two of you will get back to a place in your relationship where you can be happy to be together again.
Most relationships that have broken down have done so over a period of time and usually because they feel they are being hurt by someone they love. These feeling have accumulated over a period of time and are taken on a life of their own. Over period of time we tend to shut ourselves off from our partner because we do not want to be hurt anymore. Once that happens you will need to make sure you can open up again and attempt to heal the relationship. Before you decide to fix your broken relationship you have to make sure that you are willing to open yourself up to the possibility of confrontation and you may feel hurt.
Is your partner willing to open up and work on the relationship? Many times one partner is more interested in saving the relationship than another. If that is the case and your partner has made it clear not to continue the relationship any longer, then you might as well call it quits. You can not do it all yourself and you can not force your partner to try.
If on the other hand, you both agree that you will try to work on the relationship the first thing you both need to do is look at yourselves and your partner needs. Try to honestly figure out what part you have played in the breakdown of the relationship and whether or not you will be committed to making the changes necessary to fix it. Again, both of you have to admit contributed to the break down of the relationship and both are willing to try to change.
The next thing you will both need to do is talk to each other. This does not mean yelling, intimidating, or getting mad. It means an open, adult discussion about how you feel. You have to be able to honestly speak your mind and explain what you think has happened, how it can be fixed,and what you are willing to do to help fix it.
This step is vitally important. This is the part where someone could get hurt feelings and that could lead to a big blowout. In order for this to work, it is crucial that you both give the other person time to talk, and not get mad or defensive about what other person have to say.
If you are sure and your partner really have an openness to healing relationships, and you are willing to work on the steps I have listed here, then the two of you will get back to a place in your relationship where you can be happy to be together again.
How to Heal A Broken Relationships
Healing a broken relationship will be a challenge. How much of a challenge will depend on many things. The first things you should go about fixing your relationship is why the relationship is in trouble in the first place. Is your relationship broken because of infidelity? If so, was it you or your partner that cheated? This type of relationship can be fixed but it is the hardest thing to overcome and both partners have to be willing to work very hard to make things right. With infidelity it would seem like the partner who cheated would have to do all the work, but that is not really the case. The truth of the matter is that it will take for the person who was cheated to try to overcome their fear of being hurt again, as well as their anger and desire for revenge.
If your relationship has broken down more gradually over time, this might be a little easier to manage. Of course, it will still take time to work and both will need to be 100% committed to working on it. Many relationships in this category die like a plant in a garden, from lack of nurturing. It is not usually a big thing that ends it but rather a series of small, seemingly unimportant, things that will weaken the relationship to the point where it will break very easily. This type of relationship will take an honest assessment of what each of you has done, or not done, to weaken the relationship.
Once you both admitted that you have played part in the breakdown of the relationship, it is time to sit down with your partner and honestly discuss what went wrong, what you think needs to be done to make it work, as well as what you personally are willing do to fix the relationship.This part of the process will be very difficult and will often lead to some unpleasant argument. Why? Because this is the part where you will have to listen to your partner about your partner's unhappiness with you. This would not be easy for you to hear. And the same goes for your partner. Very often one partner would not be able to deal with what they perceive as criticism when trying to explain the feeling of unhappiness. This is the point where you, and your partner, will need to sort out your differences rationally. If neither one of you is not able to calmly listen while trying to explain it would be very hard to work things out.
Healing a broken relationship is not impossible, but it will take time and effort to work things out. If you both are able to face your faults and be willing to accept your differences ,then you will have an easy time of fixing your relationship.
If your relationship has broken down more gradually over time, this might be a little easier to manage. Of course, it will still take time to work and both will need to be 100% committed to working on it. Many relationships in this category die like a plant in a garden, from lack of nurturing. It is not usually a big thing that ends it but rather a series of small, seemingly unimportant, things that will weaken the relationship to the point where it will break very easily. This type of relationship will take an honest assessment of what each of you has done, or not done, to weaken the relationship.
Once you both admitted that you have played part in the breakdown of the relationship, it is time to sit down with your partner and honestly discuss what went wrong, what you think needs to be done to make it work, as well as what you personally are willing do to fix the relationship.This part of the process will be very difficult and will often lead to some unpleasant argument. Why? Because this is the part where you will have to listen to your partner about your partner's unhappiness with you. This would not be easy for you to hear. And the same goes for your partner. Very often one partner would not be able to deal with what they perceive as criticism when trying to explain the feeling of unhappiness. This is the point where you, and your partner, will need to sort out your differences rationally. If neither one of you is not able to calmly listen while trying to explain it would be very hard to work things out.
Healing a broken relationship is not impossible, but it will take time and effort to work things out. If you both are able to face your faults and be willing to accept your differences ,then you will have an easy time of fixing your relationship.
Maintaining Long Distance Relationship
Maintaining a good and healthy long distance relationship can be a challenge. It takes two mature people who can effectively communicate in order to make it work.
In this article in order to make your relationship survive there are a few most common problems couples face and how to avoid falling into the same traps in your relationship.
One of the first things you and your partner need to do to ensure the continued strength of your relationship is to make sure you both understand each other commitment being truthful and honest at all times.
Another thing you and your partner need to do is make sure you have good communication skills. When you are far away from each other for extended periods of time, and you cannot have physical contact, you will have to rely solely on your communication skills to continue to build your relationship.
That is why long distance relationships, when they last, are some of the best relationships around. The couple has to learn to communicate effectively to make it work, and they do not get distracted by all the physical attraction. They are able to connect on a deeper level which can often lead to a more fulfilling relationship.
If you are an insecure person, though most people would not admit it if they are, you should avoid getting involved in a long distance relationship. Being in this type of relationship requires a great amount of trust, typically people who are insecure see a threat everywhere, even where there isn't one.
If you and your partner are overly suspicious, not only will your relationship be a constant battle, it will also be unlikely to work. No good relationship can be based on suspicion and insecurities.
You and your partner also need to be careful of the temptation to have a 'fling' with someone while away from your partner.
If you want to maintain your long distance relationship you have to know ahead of time that it will be a challenge and you and your partner both have to be committed to making it work, but if you follow my long distance relationship advice you and your partner have a real shot of having a great, long term loving relationship.
Warning Signs of a Break UP
Be cautious and aware of a warning signs of a possible break up . All relationships are different but there are usually similar symptoms of a trouble relationship to look out for:
1) You are being ignore by your partner.
It is not about him not talking to you. Ignoring someone, is where you lose interest in that person. What they are feeling or even where they were. Your love life may need a little work.
Think about why you are being ignore Have you forgotten their birthday or some other special event. Have you been less than loving lately. Are you feeling being neglected. People usually react over something they feel has happened. This could just be their perception but as they are your lover you should try to keep the relationship happy and you need to understand their point of view.
Why not give a surprise nice meal and sit down and talk about what is going on. Communication between couples is not always what it should be; but try to open a line of communication. Who knows where it may lead.
2) Your lover try to avoid seeing you or go out with you.
Does your lover suddenly becomes unavailable and too busy to see. You need to find out what that is. Do not ignore the warning signs. There is no excuse, find out the reason why he is behaving like this. Whatever you do, do not ignore these signals or you could find yourself in receipt of a break up letter.
3) Your partner is distant in the bedroom
While sex is only a three letter word, it can cause huge problems. Just ask any couple who has been together a long time. Sometimes your family or life’s issues can get in the way. Not making love every night is quite normal. What is not normal is not being intimate for months . Couples are held together by shared emotions and feelings. So do not underestimate the power of a cuddle.
In every relationship each one of us knows when one is happy or not. Sometimes their mood will have nothing to do with your actions, but often it is an indication of trouble brewing. Pay attention and look out for the above warnings signs. Otherwise you could find yourself wondering what went wrong with your relationship.
1) You are being ignore by your partner.
It is not about him not talking to you. Ignoring someone, is where you lose interest in that person. What they are feeling or even where they were. Your love life may need a little work.
Think about why you are being ignore Have you forgotten their birthday or some other special event. Have you been less than loving lately. Are you feeling being neglected. People usually react over something they feel has happened. This could just be their perception but as they are your lover you should try to keep the relationship happy and you need to understand their point of view.
Why not give a surprise nice meal and sit down and talk about what is going on. Communication between couples is not always what it should be; but try to open a line of communication. Who knows where it may lead.
2) Your lover try to avoid seeing you or go out with you.
Does your lover suddenly becomes unavailable and too busy to see. You need to find out what that is. Do not ignore the warning signs. There is no excuse, find out the reason why he is behaving like this. Whatever you do, do not ignore these signals or you could find yourself in receipt of a break up letter.
3) Your partner is distant in the bedroom
While sex is only a three letter word, it can cause huge problems. Just ask any couple who has been together a long time. Sometimes your family or life’s issues can get in the way. Not making love every night is quite normal. What is not normal is not being intimate for months . Couples are held together by shared emotions and feelings. So do not underestimate the power of a cuddle.
In every relationship each one of us knows when one is happy or not. Sometimes their mood will have nothing to do with your actions, but often it is an indication of trouble brewing. Pay attention and look out for the above warnings signs. Otherwise you could find yourself wondering what went wrong with your relationship.
Scaping The Final Stages of Break Up
Very few people experience the sudden break up. There is usually a series of stages of breaking up in a relationship.If it comes as a shock, you probably have the reason why you were dumped. You were not paying attention to what was happening between you and your partner. Things like for instance, ignoring you and avoiding spending time with you.
We all get caught up in our own thing from time to time . But when your partner sees less of you than your friends and other family,it can highlight an issue in your relationship. If you do spend time together but are always fighting, you need to stop and break that cycle. Constant arguing achieves nothing and although initially it is fun making up, it can come to a point where you do not even bother trying.
Does your partner trust you? Do you trust them? Lack of trust is also a symptom of a partnership in trouble. If you expect to know where your partner all the time, they will soon see that this is not love. If you are behaving like this, you need to stop right now. Unless your spouse has given you reason not to trust them, you should believe in them and have faith that they will do the right thing.
Do you share your happy feelings and commiserate when you are down or feeling low? Couples who instinctively, know how the other is feeling, will overcome most of the blockage that life can throw at us.
Does your partner share your interests and hobbies? If she has made an effort to get involved, this is a sign that she really cares about you. No-one expects her to join you for your 5am fishing trips but if she seems interested in listening to your stories about what you caught, what size it was, that is a good sign.
Your partner may have asked for a trial separation. This is just an easy way of saying “you are dumped but I can’t say that!” But it does not always have to mean this. Things can go wrong between two people and only time apart will help them to resolve the issues.
So if your lover does suggest this, agree but ask that they come to counseling with you. Show that you do not want the relationship to end as they mean too much to you. Try not to put pressure on your partner and do not resort to emotional blackmail. You cannot force someone to love you but you can turn a bad situation into something a lot worse by appearing desperate or manipulative.
True love is based on understanding and respect. Showing your partner that you know this is a great way to avoid the final stages of breaking up.
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