We all have emotions and love is the strongest passion of them all. Therefore, when love ends, it may seem fatal. But there are ways to win back lost love. We will look at five strategies to pursue when you are trying to get your lover back.
First of all, you need to be honest to yourself and to each other. If there were underlying problems in your relationship, it is essential that you address them. For instance, if housework was a big issue, you need to address it before you can get back together. If you are messy and your ex was a neat freak, it can cause a considerable amount of stress in the relationship. If one person felt they were doing all the housework, it can cause a strain. Finances are another area where there can be strain. To win back lost love, you have to address these areas before you get back together.
Next, you need to be a dependable person. If you have broken up already, you need to be dependable as an ex. You need to be there when he or she needs you, even though you no longer have a “responsibility” to. For instance, if she is moving, lend a helping hand and your truck. If he needs someone to type his resume, do it for him.
Third, encourage your ex. One of the things people miss when they break up is the encouragement their partner gives them. So, to win back lost love, try to find out where they are discouraged and cheer them up. If they are having a performance review at work, send an email timed to get there right before the meeting. If they are singing a solo at church, show up to give them some moral support.
Fourth, listen to them when they call. Most of the time after a break up, there is some level of communication. Often, this degenerates into fights. But, if you really listen to the things your ex is telling you, you may be able to figure out a way to get back into their life. Encourage them to share their problems with you. Do not try to solve them. Just let them express their concerns with life. Be a sounding board.
Fifth, do not sit on the sidelines. Life is meant to be played on the playing field. If you sit on the sidelines, it is likely that someone else will become the quarterback of their life. Do not give up on the relationship unless you are ready to move on yourself. Things are not going to get better on their own. You have to go out and make things better.
If you want to win back lost love, you have to take this five part action guide to heart. You have to be proactive.
The most important thing is to show you really care about your ex and tell him or her that you do care. You should not be worried if they date other people because they will come back to you if you are the right person for them.
You should know that it is possible to win back lost love. Now go out there and do it!